Mostly emotional. I only know of two physical incidents where she said was pinned and screamed at face to face.
I don't even want to talk to the shithead, because that wont get anything accomplished. In fact, if I ever do encounter him, I will be leaving his vicinity no matter the occasion hopefully without speaking to him.
I may go have coffee with her to talk about it if she's willing. Maybe I can convince her then to being the separation processes