just what exactly do you listen to? that death metal bullshit? i define music as "hard" as when it pisses mainstream groupie people off, and is shunned by most radio and television stations. but i dont consider Drowning Pool metal (that nu-metal tag is so retarded), i consider them hard rock. bands i consider metal (and really like) are Dry Kill Logic, Diecast, Machine Head, Mudvayne, Skrape, Soulfly, Spineshank, Taproot, The Union Underground, and the list goes on. i also like sofer mainstream stuff whem i'm in the mood (collective soul is a good choice)
people who insult others because of music taste are morons. sure, i think pop and rap (cept for ice cube) is complete bullshit, but i'm not gonna insult someone just because of their different taste. so grow up already son :|